Only child syndrome
Depending on the order in which a person is born, can say a lot about someones personality traits. According to the birth order research, I am considered an only child because both my siblings are over five years older than me. The characteristics on this research portrays several things about my personality such as my procrastination, perfectionist, reliability, and conscientiousness. However, I do disagree with little of the research findings as well.
The first trait that stood out to me is procrastination to relieve the burden of being a perfectionist. This describes me to an extent because everything I do or make has to be perfect, so I plan to make sure it is. A recent example, I remember was just the other day in class we were doing an in-class project, right away people began to work, but I just sat there and planned and strategized. Towards the end of class time, everybody had finished yet I was just barley getting started. This is a common event for myself because if my project is not perfect the first time I will continue to start over. Another recent example of my procrastination to relieve burden of perfectionist was when I was helping my sister-in-law with wedding decorations. We had to evenly line burlap around jars and stick flowers on top of it. I kept starting and restarting until the burlap was perfectly inline and straight because I knew several people would be looking at my work. I realize that not everything can come out looking perfect, and I know putting things off can get me in trouble in the future. This is a cursed trait that I need to improve upon.
Another accurate trait the birth order research states is only children usually are reliable and conscientious. An example of how I demonstrate being reliable is that all my coaches, teachers, and family rely on me to work hard, do my best, and never give up. My friends rely on me to follow through with plans and other commitments that have been planned. I also feel it is very important for my teachers to see me as a reliable student. Recently, my teacher, Mr. Ostini gave me and a couple other students a job to make a homework blog and i will prove to him he can depend on me to follow through with the assignment. Trust and reliability is a big trait to display to my coaches, teachers, parents, and friends to count on me in order for me to be successful. As far as being conscientious, the other day I had thought of something funny to say as a joke, but I realized it could end up hurting someone's feelings. I like to think before I speak because I wouldn't want someone to take the joke in a wrong way and have be loosing a friend in the end. Being reliable and conscientious is and excellent trait to possess so that people are able to trust and like me. Although I'm not the best, I would still consider myself reliable and conscientious person.
However, there are traits that I disagree with. The ones that especially stick out to me were the traits that describes: gets along well with those older and younger, but not the same age, and difficult relating to peers. I find this completely inaccurate because I get along with just about everyone whether there're older, younger, or my same age. In fact, the majority of my friends are peers my age. I consider myself a rather friendly person and i love getting to know new people. Difficult relating to peers is also false because all the friends i have are mainly because we relate to the same things and share the same interest. Even if i'm tooting my own horn, I do admit, I have plenty of friends and partly because we share the same interest. Not all research is accurate and I disagree 100 percent with two of these findings.
These are strengths, weaknesses, agreements, and disagreements with the birth order research, and i see eye to eye with most of the personality traits with the exceptions of few. I enjoyed this research because it let me see the difference or prospective just by the order in which someone was born. This research project also changed my views and perceptions on others, because now I see how being the youngest, middle, oldest, or only child can affect the way you act.